Sunday, June 26, 2011

With A Little Help From My Friends


"What would you do if I sang out a tune?
Would you stand up and walk out on me?

Lend me your ears and I'll sing you a song,

And I'll try not to sing out of key"

- The Beatles, "With A Little Help From My Friends"


Today I was ambushed. Nazz Lane asked me to be inworld to talk about a project we have been discussing about Twitter. Luckily, I was able to wake up in time and get inworld, although it was close. He asked me to go see something of Trill Zapatero's and he TPed me there.

What I found was a party; a party for me. Nazz, Trill and millay Freschi had plotted together. So many good friends were there. I had trouble keeping up with IMs, gifts and chat because I was crying and it was hard to see the screen or keyboard; I was overwhelmed with emotion.

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Because of my recent health problems, I've been kind of crabby and depressed lately, and not inworld much. I also was trying to get over my admittedly-childish post about the logo and... just falling back into my old shell again.

The friends who came also know that the whole time I have been in SL, the last 3 years, my life has been tumbled and upset and ripped apart and I have not been at what I think of as my best as a person. I have not lived up to my own idea of my "best ability" and it is also a constant source of worry to me, letting my friends down by not being able to give them the "best of me."

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So this party was just overwhelming to me. I don't have much of a family in RL; this community is what I think of as my family. I believe in this medium and in these worlds for the betterment of humankind; that people can find family and community and work and play and love together despite differences in age, location, gender, race, creed or lifestyles; that this medium of communication is the most important invention in my lifetime. It is why I have spent over 20 years on the nets and why I think that's worth putting life-energy into.

Today, these friends showed me such beliefs are not in vain. They gave me a gift more precious than anything: to know that they care about me irregardless of my status, my station or my mistakes; to know I had friends and family. I haven't had much of that in my life and it is a treasure to me worth more than any material thing. I know that a few stayed up past their bedtimes to be there, or came especially when they aren't usually in SL (like White Lebed).

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For once, I won't go on and on (i know huh? Rare moment; appreciate it while you can!) I can't; there aren't enough words to say how much meaning this had for me. 200 lbs just fell off my heart :) My love to my friends who came to MisoDay:

Nazz Lane, Trill Zapatero, millay Freschi, briawinde Magic, Mommaluv Skytower, Jayjay Zifanwe, Maiko Yheng, Wizard Gynoid, Isabella Alphaville, Alizarin Goldflake, White Lebed, Coyote Longfall, talkwithmarie Resident, Vaneeesa Blaylock, orb Thursday, Ormand Lionheart, TeuffelHunde Mandelkorn, Inae Indigo, soror Nishi, Casondrenee Whybrow, FreeWee Ling, brinda Allen, Reezy Frequency, Mik Frequency, Indigo Lucerne, Skylar Smythe, shellina Winkler, Petey Karfield, Zayra Ametza, Taralyn Gravois, Razzap Snookums, Scottius Polke, Fuschia Nightfire, Scarp Godenot, Aletheia Lyre and Zayra Ametza; pls forgive me if I forgot anyone, I was crying (happy) half the time and missed a lot :)

35 comments:

Marie Ravencrow said...

Well hon I missed it, didn't know it was happening...but I can definitely empathize with you, and you are blessed by having such a great online family.

Hugs,
Marie

Miso Susanowa said...

It's ok Marie, I miss a lot of things that way myself! *hug* ty :)

Dividni Shostakovich said...

Awww damn I wish I'd known! Happy Miso Day! Big hugs, and more big hugs!

Wizzy Gynoid said...

hehe it was great fun. we love you hunneh bunneh. :D

Mera Kranfel said...

Wonderful Miso! Huggssss! xxxxxxxx

sororNishi said...

XXXXXXXX remember.... we don't have to be perfect to be liked..... people like us IN SPITE OF our imperfections...that is grace.

White Lebed said...

Just wanted to thank Nazz for doing it the right way.
I've lost a few good friends lately, mostly unexpectedly. Have you noticed how we always find time to come to those functions, how we always find words to express love for people who... can't hear us any longer?
But then we are too busy and/or too shy to tell those who are still around what they really mean to us.
It was great to see something so different, for a change - friends showering with love a friend, who is perfectly alive, very present, listening and crying.
Maybe we should try doing it more often?

Lalo Telling said...

Wish I'd been there... but I know no one who deserves it more. *hug*

Bradd Laval said...

Ahem... and why wasn't I invited huh?

Hugz Miso XD

Vaneeesa said...

Aww Miso, it was superfun! Trill's building over there is incredible and Ali's decorations were so cool (apologies to anyone if I got those credits wrong)

And you looked fabulous! :)

Happy International Miso Day!!

Apmel said...

Damn..I´m really sorry I missed this!
*hugs* Miso, you are such an imperfect good friend :))

Shellina said...

Great Party! and very happy to be there! Hugs Miso :)

Brinda said...

I felt so much love there dear.
No one better deserved and outpouring of love than you.

Like you, I feel you guys in SL are my true family.
I was priveleged to have been invited.
Namaste

Miso Susanowa said...

To those of you who missed it: I didn't know! Probably those 3 PLOTTERS just went on people they knew; I'm sure they didn't mean to exclude anyone. And I also know you would have come if you knew, so *HUG!!!*

There should be more of these "people appreciation days"; there's a lot of people who deserve them!

Chrome said...

Sorry I missed that one, Miso.... but not too late to wish you Happy Miso Day, I hope. :)

Deoridhe said...

I'm so glad you had a Happy Miso day! <3

Nazz Lane said...

I'd like to apologize to all who had expressed their regrets here and likely many others at not having been aware of the party. We'd decided to make it a surprise and did our very best to not tip her off to it. We also did our best to make sure none were over looked when we pulled together the list and it's obvious we did miss some. As I read through comments, I feel badly that we had missed so many. My humble apologies to each of you.

Miso Susanowa said...

awww Nazz *hug* I am telling that to people... how could you know? You and Trill and millay did wonderfully!

Botgirl Questi said...

Thanks for being so open about your personal challenges and how your virtual community has supported you. I thought your post was a great example of how to:

- communicate authentically about RL issues without sacrificing pseudonymity;

- disclose emotional hardship without falling into Emo self-pity and/or blame; and

- go beyond mere "thank you" in letting people know how you were touched through their support.

Jim said...

There are a many out there who I respect professionally or academically, and those who I respect and/or admire personally (and "respect" is such a weak word there for how I feel), but you are one of those who easily goes well beyond both of those. We all love you Miso and whatever strength you can get from our moral support and good wishes, know that you have it!

Nepherses said...

Oh Miso! So sorry I missed your Rez-day! My life is total chaos! However I totally relate to not having much in the way of friends and family. Lately, I have been a complete isolate! I am SO happy people on SL threw you a big party and SO sorry I missed it! Happy very belated rez day! Kiss~ Neph

savemeoh said...

Was it a party or a pre-funeral?

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